Nobody’s perfect. That’s not really news, is it?
More importantly, no body is perfect. Again, this really isn’t news. We know that with the help of make-up, styling, lighting, spanx, and most importantly, Photoshop, what we see as “perfection” isn’t really real.
But I still hear women imply that they are seeking perfection. Or that there is somehow something not good enough about how they look because they aren’t “perfect.”
To which I say, forget about perfection. It’s boring. And the pursuit of perfection distracts us from appreciating the things that already make us beautiful.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t try to improve yourself. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be healthier and have more confidence.
But while you are focused on pointing out your own “imperfections” and fixating on improving your “flaws,” have you become blind to what already does make you beautiful and interesting?
I recently read this post - So you’re feeling too fat to be photographed … Replace “too fat” with whatever insecurity you have about your looks and read that now.
Stop focusing on what you think are your flaws (which probably aren’t flaws to anyone else). Focus on what does make you beautiful and interesting. Focus on the people who already think you are perfect. (That would be your family, your friends, your spouse/partner.)
And if you need a little inspiration …
My good friend Paula has always been comfortable in her own skin. There are things about her body that aren’t “perfect,” but she focuses on her assets instead of fixating on imperfections - in fact, she was once crowded Miss Naked Girl Reading [that link includes nudity, obvi]. And we can always count on her to be up for a pin-ups photo sessions – so we did that for her bachelorette party.
And I love what she had to say about this picture I posted on Facebook from a friend’s wedding:
Honestly, it was kind of refreshing. How often do we criticize pictures of ourselves on Facebook? Ugh, look at my [this]! Need to hit the gym! or Oh my [that] looks so big! Need to lay off the cookies! Etc. For being so fixated on our own appearances, we sure are willing to come off as unattractive – by putting ourselves down.
As I’ve mentioned, I’ve done pin-up photos. The thing I love about it is that it’s about embracing what makes you beautiful, no matter what you look like. I know I’m not perfect, and sure, I can look at these photos and point out my flaws, but that’s not what these photos are about.
Someday I’ll be 80 and I’ll look back and wonder why I wasted any time criticizing my appearance. So I’ll listen to that future 80-year-old (oh, and my husband), realize that I’m beautiful, end of story, and love myself as I am, no matter what my body looks like.